For decades, Philomena Lee didnt think there was anything interesting about her life story. There was more of a dont ask, dont tell environment they enjoyed, and a number of them would say, Dont worry about that, well talk about that privately.. For them it was not only a matter of sin and morality, but one of pounds, shillings and pence. But he had this deep desire to find his biological mother, to understand her. He was born in the Irish abbey where his pregnant mother had sought refuge and, after his birth, was compelled into servitude for more than three years. Then it went to the Venice Film Festival and received such fantastic reviews. She said she could only vaguely recollect her arrival on May 6, but that after a short handover with a nun, she was taken away and her aunt and brother left. When her son Anthony was three years old, the convents nuns, in exchange for a generous donation, gave him up for adoption to Americans, who were told he was an orphan. Philomena:And often the mothers parents were glad to get rid of you, because it was such a shame on them. Two years later, the . 'This was all part of the shame we were made to feel every day,' she added. But they didnt give us any information about the American side of things. Has he gone to Vietnam? The issues surrounding his adoption are controversial, as part of a program of forced adoptions practised by some Catholic religious orders in Ireland at the time, and the story of that early part of his life was later told in British journalist Martin Sixsmith's book The Lost Child of Philomena Lee and in the film Philomena.[1]. I remember it very clearly. Philomena Lee issued a powerful sworn statement to the High Court, in which she told her heartbreaking story, and highlighted what she called the 'cruel and inhuman' treatment of vulnerable women like her. Jane:My mom still very much has her faith and is still quite protective of the Church, so you find it a bit awkward sometimes. There were not an insignificant number of gay people at the R.N.C. Michael Hess, adopted to America, visited Sean Ross Abbey in Ireland three times looking for his birth mother. Steve Dahllof, Hesss partner for the last 15 years of his life, said in a telephone interview that the book was about a three out of 10, in terms of accuracy, while the movie, in accuracy of spirit, is 10 out of 10. He said the book had portrayed Michael as this very dark, brooding type of person that he was not, though he acknowledged that Hess didnt let very many people in.. Hess never learned who his mother was. He was born Anthony Lee in Ireland and spent his first years of life in a convent before being adopted by Marge and Doc Hess of St Louis, Missouri. I further undertake never to attempt to see, interfere with or make any claim to the said child at any future time. They had a Catholic mass every Friday morning. When I saw the movie, I was thunderstruck.. Like all the other girls, Philomena Lee was made to sign a renunciation document agreeing to give up her three-year-old son and swearing on oath: "I relinquish full claim for ever to my child and surrender him to Sister Barbara, Superioress of Sean Ross Abbey. Shes English like I am, so she knew where I was coming from, because in the United Kingdom, at 18 years old, you can find out your history if youre adopted. I was angry, but I didnt shout out her like Steve Coogan shouts at Sister Hildegard [in the movie]. Im sure Anthony was up there. We really didnt talk politics that much.. I was upset and very sad and very hurt. However, the congregations spokeswoman, Sr Julie Rose, says there is no record of any meeting between Lee and the nuns in 1977. He went back to Roscrea, first in 1977 and again in 1993, to plead with the nuns to tell him how to find his mother. Philomena:Sometimes. When she was 18, she went to live with her aunt in Limerick city, and she worked as a cleaner in St Mary's convent. Even the progressive Florida governor, Reubin Askew in confirmation hearings to join the Carter Administration said he would not hire anyone he knew to be gay. But immediately I knew who this child was because we always had his photograph in with all the other family photos. In 1980, Bob Bauman, considered by many to be the Newt Gingrich of his day, lost his re-election bid after being arrested with a male teenage prostitute. He will be dearly missed by his parents, Denny and Kristy Hess; sister, Madisen Hess; brother, Markus Hess; grandmother, Marylee Hoch; along with many aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends. Was Michael tortured? Dahllof asked. 'I went with only what I was wearing and knew nothing more than that I was going there to have my baby,' she said. Mari:Absolutely. If one of our citizens should happen to come to the Irish Embassy or call one of the consulates, would you be able to give them these resources and point us in the right direction? We dont want to do any hard-hitting political lobbying, but we would like them to lend their voices and their support if at all possible. Its the not knowing. ", Philomena says she fought against signing the terrible undertaking. Philomena:I go home to Ireland every year. On one of his lost weekends he became infected with HIV. You might have also spotted him around town D.J.-ing, something he did at local clubs and at a radio station at George Washington University, where he was known for his eclectic taste, which ran from Grace Jones to the Grateful Dead. I had asked you once when I was a child, and you said it was a cousins son, and I didnt think anything more of that. According to Mr. Braden, who is heterosexual, not only did people know about Mr. Hess, but many others, too. As a rising star of the Republican National Committee, he masterminded the party's electoral strategy, brokering the redistricting (gerrymandering) reforms. It was a situation where the family just didnt know this whole other part of his life, recalled Robert Higdon, one of Hesss closest friends and the former executive director of the Prince of Wales Foundation in Washington. 'It was taken for granted that Anthony would be adopted. With or without the agreement of their mothers, it sold them to the highest bidder. He was a terrific cook, and a demon dancer and DJ. If you have a competent lawyer, they give you comfort, and he was a very competent lawyer.. You blew up a lot of white Democratic incumbents and scrambled the eggs.. Pic: David Fisher/REX/Shutterstock. And I thought, I couldnt go through my whole life being angry. Its just not in my nature to be angry. On weekends, they would head for their farmhouse in West Virginia, which was stocked with three dogs they had gotten through the Humane Society. I know that Michael left the abbey that day with a better feeling for his roots.'. They were very pleasant very nice. Ive seen this with other Irish people. Steve Coogan, as Martin, seems confused by it, asking, Just like that? But Judi Dench, as you, says it actually takes everything inside you to forgive. After all, said E. Mark Braden, a lawyer who worked with Mr. Hess for several years at the committee, the guy never exactly wore his heart on his sleeve. But I think eventually it may take a UN case similar to theMagdalenes cause in Ireland. 'It never occurred to me to ask whether I could go home now I had given birth. Be the first to read breaking news, the best sports coverage & top entertainment stories. via Philomena Lee By Jacob Bernstein Jan. 10, 2014 In the early-to-mid 1980s, if. In the growing panoply of Irish religious villains on screen, none is more chillingly depicted than Sr Hildegarde McNulty in the movie Philomena. It was here that you might find Michael Hess, a lawyer for the Republican National Committee during the Reagan and Bush administrations, and something of a regular (at least during his early days in Washington). Audio clips of a RT interview recorded in 1986 with Sr Hildegarde portray a woman weeping over many of the mothers who were in her care. I agreed to a meeting, and found myself embarking on a five-year quest for a man I had never met. People would say, Are you against the Catholic Church? No, Im not. Judi Dench starred as Philomena Lee in the 2013 movie Philomena. And he was an adopted child, the son of an unwed mother who had given him up for motives he never fully understood and that haunted him for life. Jane:Well, you told me. In Sixsmiths telling, Hesss first political experience was as a teenage Senate page for the Republican minority leader, Everett Dirksen of Illinois. She asked me if I had ever "been with a boy". Did you feel surprised that so many people found your commitment to your faith inspiring? On his return to the US, he plunged into alcohol, drugs and unbridled sexual indulgence. But Michael Anthony Hess also grappled with two realities that would have been dislocating for anyone: He was a gay Republican lawyer in an era of much greater political and cultural divisiveness over homosexuality. We all knew he was gay, Mary Matalin, then a young RNC staffer, recalled. Michael Anthony Hess (born Anthony Lee; 5 July 1952 - 15 August 1995) was an Irish-born American lawyer, deputy chief legal counsel and later chief legal counsel to the Republican National Committee (RNC) in the late 1980s and early 1990s. They just werent helpful. She said all the women at the abbey were given new names - hers was Marcella - and there was little or no discussion about their families back home. St. Patricks Day was huge around our house. I wasnt Philomena Lee anymore. Mark Braden recalled: One of the lines I can remember that I said is, We should be singing the Notre Dame fight song, rather than all these hymns., It was just so sad, Robert Higdon added. Although Philomena never actually went to the USA - as she is shown to do in the film -, the 'disclaimer' at the end of the movie- "no similarity is to be inferred between characters depicted and real persons" - makes clear that 'dramatic licence' was employed to give the (true) story more impact for audiences. It would just be awful. PHOTOS: The Oscars: 10 winning political films, Also on POLITICO: 5 stats that explained the world this week. CORRECTION: An earlier version of this story misstated the year Michael Hess was born. In the late autumn of 1951, Philomena Lee became pregnant. The three siblings met their sister, who lives in Chicago, in 2002, but, unfortunately, their mother was dead by then. Working with psychiatric patients, it helped me to heal a lot of the pain I had. His behaviour brought with it the terrible fear of exposure that would destroy him as a senior Republican official, but he could not stop himself. He bounced him on his knees and hugged him and loved him. Philomena just after discovering her son's grave in 2004. He did a good job, and thats what mattered. Barbour added in an interview: I had been told that he was gay, but that wasnt any of my business., ( PHOTOS: The Oscars: 10 winning political films), Scott Reed, then the partys executive director, was equally in the dark. The forced adoptions across the country, I mean. His partner, Mr. Dahllof, said this did not occur in real life, but theres little question the disease caused Mr. Hess to retreat somewhat. I started reading the reviews to mom, and we could see why people liked it. The allegation is denied by Sr Julie. "Hewas a lovely, gentle, quiet lad. People asked me if it was good and I said, I dont know. Another caller who was born in the abbey said she found Sr Hildegarde to be co-operative. The new film is based on a 2009 book, The Lost Child of Philomena Lee, a novelistic re-imagining of the true story by the British journalist Martin Sixsmith, who helped Philomena Lee learn of her sons fate in 2004. In a piano bar in D.C., he sang Danny Boy, and the place went from very noisy to dead silent.. It wasn't easy: Irish law makes it extremely difficult for adopted children to learn about their parents and birth records, and the nuns at the convent where Lee lived stonewalled her requests for information. Hess's birth mother became pregnant at age 18 at a local carnival by a man named John who worked for the post office. Early on in the search I realised that the Irish Catholic hierarchy had been engaged in what amounted to an illicit baby trade. He knew her last name was Lee. Michael Hess (named Anthony Lee at birth) was that son. And she did, bringing with her a British journalist named Martin Sixsmith and, a few years later, the interest of Steve Coogan, Judi Dench and the rest of Hollywood. Their attitudes really havent changed. He could discuss anything and in some detail from sports scores to international politics., Braden, the former RNC counsel, said he was aware of Hesss search for his mother in Ireland. This interview has been condensed and edited. Philomena:He was a lovely, lovely little boy. I said, I dont, so he took the anger and put it in his character. She kept her secret but never forgot her son. A spurned lover burned himself to death because Mike rejected him. Philomena cried when Anthony was taken from her at Christmas, 1955. Then, seemingly inexplicably, he had died, in 1995, at the age of just 43. In Ireland, its still this stubborn willfulness. Nobody really knew what went on behind the walls or dared ask. Still, few people in official Washington were fully out of the closet, in part because of how damaging it still could be to a budding political career. Somebody might go to their local representatives and say, I was born in Ireland and am a citizen here, what do I do?. . A little later I met Philomena herself. But they kind of caused the problem in the first place. Michael was a careerist, Mr. Witeck said. But he was loved by his adoptive mother and by the little girl who was plucked with him from the Roscrea convent who became his lifelong friend and sister. The reasons for his political conversion are not entirely clear. I dont want to discuss that, sorry, said Banning, who himself is gay, before quickly hanging up. We were so browbeaten, it was such a sin. 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Pope Francis lambasts Catholic bishops who helped cover up child abuse, Race matters but it must not be a bar to adoption. When he was 3, he and a little girl were adopted by Dr. Michael and Marjorie Hess, who lived in St. Louis. But Michael Hess was gay, and in a Republican Party that was rabidly homophobic, he was obliged to conceal his sexuality. In the fall of 1994, Ms. Kavanagh said, Mr. Hess wound up in the hospital. There was an outdoor area where people could drink and look at the stars, but even that was shielded from public view. I didnt get angry with her. I really wanted him to stay on because he had an encyclopedic and legendary knowledge about redistricting, Ginsberg recalled. Philomena Lee with actor Steve Coogan, who starred in the movie Philomena. Finally, without telling anyone, Philomena embarked on a lonely, desperate search to find him. Is Philomena an Irish name? You see so much hurt and pain caused by anger. "I went in there when my mother died, when I was six and a half, and I left at 18 not knowing a thing about the facts of life. You didnt query it, you just didnt query it. He held his Irish roots very deep. Such was the power of the church, and of Archbishop John Charles McQuaid, that the state bowed before its demands, ceding responsibility for the mothers and babies to the nuns. I would so often say, 'I wonder what he is doing? Steve asked a particular question of whether you forgive the nuns, and you did. The 88-year-old said the adoptions carried out through Ireland's mother and baby homes caused 'unspeakable harm'. Michael's sister Mary, his partner and friends in Washington, but we have to take some of . He kept his illness secret, but in 1993 he went again to Roscrea to appeal for help. In the late 1980s, Michael Hess became infected with HIV. Pic: Niall Carson/PA Wire. Jane:We had no idea what to expect. Strong emotionsThe real Sr Hildegarde provokes strong emotions in those who knew her, as judged by contributors to the RT Liveline radio programme recently. It took a painstaking trawl through passport records and the piecing together of fleeting references in old newspaper articles to discover what had become of Anthony Lee Doc and Marge Hess from St Louis, Missouri fulfilled the McQuaid criteria they were good Catholics, a professional couple in their early 40s, and Marge's brother was a bishop. Activists have said you'd needto drag Ireland to the United Nations to see these changes happen. He requested that his ashes be buried at Roscrea in the hope that his mother would be able to find his grave. She asserted that when she gave birth to her son Anthony, there was no doctor present, no formal medical care and no pain relief. I just craved and begged them to please let me keep him. She said she had received a good education at the convent, but she did not know anything about the ways of the world, and had received no sex education whatsoever. Now, 19 years after his death, Mr. Hesss life is at the center of Philomena, a film starring Judi Dench and Steve Coogan that is based on the real-life story of an elderly Irishwomans search for the son she was forced to give up for adoption 50 years earlier and was desperate to find. This was apparently intentional. His ashes had been buried at the the convent at Hesss requesthe hoped that his mother would return and find him. This weekend, fashion designer Misha Nonoo and her fianc Michael Hess are expected to marry in Rome, surrounded by family, friends, and more than one famous face. He would think maybe wed run across her. When Marge leaned down to pick up her new daughter in the convent nursery, she was charmed to see Mary's best friend, a little boy in baggy trousers, come running to give her a kiss. This was in part because I had nowhere to go. They were part of the solution, but they were part of the problem. Each time they refused, brandishing her sworn undertaking that she would "never attempt to see" her child. . He was an important figure in the redistricting battles of the late 1980s and early 1990s, and was admired for his integrity and pursuit of justice on the critical issue of gerrymandering. Michael A. Hess, 43, chief counsel to the Republican National Committee, died Aug. 15 at George Washington University Hospital. Chief National Correspondent. Pic: Leah Farrell/RollingNews.ie. Steve Coogan [who plays Martin Sixsmith] says the same thing. 'I ran upstairs and looked out of a window and saw him getting into a car. No children were sold by any mother or the congregation, to any party, nor did the congregation receive any monies in relation to adoptions while we were running the mother and baby home.. [2], He died from complications of AIDS, although this was not mentioned at the memorial service held for him. And it wasnt an impossibility to be a respected attorney and be gay and working for the Republican Party. Mr Sixsmith estimated that the Hess family in St Louis paid about $2,000 for Michael and Mary at the time, an enormous sum in 1955. From the day I went in till the day I came out I was Marcella, not Philomena Lee. His book contains a photograph of Hess with Sr Hildegarde at the abbey in 1993 when he was dying from Aids. She was away on a family vacation at a time when cellphones were hardly ubiquitous and returned home to find a series of messages from Mr. Dahllof about Mr. Hesss deteriorating health on her answering machine. Mr Sixsmith estimated that the Hess. As we know but Mike did not Philomena was looking for him, returning to Roscrea, seeking traces of her son Obituaries in US newspapers after Michael's death in August 1995 provided vital clues in my search for him. 'The commission should state very clearly that the mothers and babies did nothing wrong, and they did not deserve the treatment that they received.'. When Marjorie Hess first visited the abbey, she was attracted to a little girl named Mary, and then to the little boy Anthony who wouldnt leave her side. But he was haunted by half-remembered visions of his first three years in Ireland and by a lifelong yearning to find his mother. Now, nearly two decades after his death from AIDS at age 43 and to the surprise of some of his former co-workers and bosses Hess is the central presence (or, more precisely, the central absence) at the heart of Philomena, the hit Academy Award best-picture nominee for which Dame Judi Dench just snagged her seventh Oscar nod. I didn't want him to go. Jane: I think hed be pleased, being a political man. Right, the real Philomena Lee at Mr. Hesss grave in Roscrea, Ireland, where he asked to be buried, in hopes she might find him. To order a copy for 11.99 with free UK p&p, go to theguardian.com/bookshop or call 0330 333 6846, Unmarried mother Philomena Lee was forced to give up her son to Irish nuns, who sold him on to rich Americans. But he could never be at peace. Without those papers, there never would have been a book. The book is at least 80% the story of Anthony Lee who became Michael Hess when he was adopted by the family in the United States from the Catholic convent in Ireland, one of the many examples of babies being literally sold to families seeking children. I didnt know about babies being gone abroadand getting donations for them. 'I carried on working until May 1952, when one day my aunt asked me out of the blue if I was pregnant, but I did not know what that meant. No, he wasnt tortured. Jane:When we went the first time, they didnt help. Manus ORiordan, whose late wife was born in the abbey, said Sr Hildegarde lied to his wife about where her mother was from and he said there was a sense of evil about her. in high-level positions, he said. She knew I had been a journalist and she had a friend who wanted my help to solve a family mystery. memorial page for Marjorie "Marge" Lane Hess (5 Jan 1913-2 Jun 1983), Find a Grave Memorial ID 6924430, citing Saint Paul Cemetery, Worthington, Dubuque County . Pic: S Meddle/ITV/REX/Shutterstock. ", The Lost Child of Philomena Lee by Martin Sixsmith is published by Macmillan, 12.99. Philomena:Very much so. In 1978, Jack Kemps sexuality was questioned in an Esquire magazine article, and the rumors interfered with his political efforts for years. He was physically attractive and gifted, ran cross-country and sang in school musical productions. He was adopted in 2000 by Denny Hess. ', One Sunday, she said, she was called to see Sister Hildegarde, the nun who ran the adoption business of the abbey. Now, you dont work in a psychiatric hospital and not see some awful, sad faces. Pic: Agf/REX/Shutterstock. The Republicans strategy fought out in a series of controversial court cases and legislation in the 1980s and 90s was to pack black and Latino voters into super-concentrated congressional districts that all but guaranteed the election of racial minorities but made the remaining districts newly competitive for Republicans. Though Mr. Hesss attempts to find his birth mother were unsuccessful he made three trips back to the convent, where he was told by the nuns that they had no records about Ms. Lee and they had no idea how to find her he did opt to be buried in Roscrea, in the hopes that Philomena would one day find him. He had pneumonia, she said. It said: 'I was very saddened to hear of Sr Hildegarde's passing. Its just different people who have different views. Philomena had been told her son would be taken to the US, but little else. "[6], Hess became deputy chief legal counsel to the Republican National Committee, eventually rising to chief legal counsel. Ive seen so much hurt caused through anger. One of the most powerful scenes in the movie is the moment of forgiveness near the end. But so is that of the man who was her real-life son. But Michael Hess was gay. What was it like seeing the movie for the first time? The nuns again refused to tell him where he could. He died, at the age of 43, in 1995. At the time they did it, they took me in, they gave me a home for my baby. 'The regime at the abbey was pretty severe, but as I tended to do what I was told I did not receive many punishments,' she continued. Dahllof, Higdon and Hesss other friends and co-workers all resist tendencies in the book and movie to caricature or pigeonhole him as a gay man, or a Republican, or anything else.
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